Did the title catch you?

You looked at it and said, “Oh yeah, that’s me … I lose focus all the time!”.

If that is not you, you are probably thinking, “I wish I could lose some focus and relax once in awhile!”

It seems we are either focused in on where we lack focus, or what we would rather have.

How is your focus?

Focus can either be a noun that describes a state, center we have, or clear vision we possess of what we want or where we want to go.

Now that I would love more of!

But … it can also be a verb that refers to how well we pay attention.

Honestly, I could use more of that too.

I hear of women wanting more focus, not as much on their ability to zero in on one thing, but with clarity of knowing who they are and where they want to go.

It’s pretty hard to pay attention and focus in on something when you don’t know where you should be or what that looks like.

Here are 3 common areas you may seem to lose focus:

  1.  We think in the future but act in the moment.  It is easy to think about the future and know some things we would either like to accomplish, or experience.  It is much harder to actually act on it in the present day when it can feel so far away, and often out of reach.  Forward thinking and intentional planning helps you keep focused on the bigger picture and the difference small steps today can mean for your tomorrow.  Thinking beyond the pleasure of moments today can help you stay focused on your tomorrow.
  2. We don’t identify what most important to us at the core.  When you get crystal clear on what truly is most important to you, your “yes” becomes a “YES!”.  You know what to let go of to get what you are focused on and want down the road.  You will also recognize which “no” will hold you back and don’t feel the tension of being pulled back and forth between where you want to go and the time you have available to you.  If you don’t have the time for the important things, you can look at your core values and recognize what you need to let go.  The clarity of the core values will give focus on where to show up and where to step back.
  3. We are present in the moment, but not the lifetime. You are all in today, but you are not in for the long haul.  Today you are present in what you have on your plate, You are all in.  What you’re not even thinking about is what comes next.  To be present is not the same as being focused.  Focus requires a lens that helps us see forward.  To see what our choices today will mean much longer down the road.  Many years ago a friend told me that he had wise counsel say to him, “If you are ever thinking of having an affair on your spouse, think it through right to the end.  Don’t just think in the moment but think 10 years down the road.”  You want your decisions today to reflect where you want to be in your lifetime, not surprise you 5 years down the road when you realize how far off track you are.  You lose focus when you lose the big lifetime picture. 

Those who keep going know that it doesn’t end today.  They can see it past this moment, past today, past this year even, and they focus in on what it is that truly matters because they know it is much bigger than the present.  It is about the big picture, who they want to be, where they want to go, and how they want to be remembered.

If you are looking for focus and wanting some clarity and confidence, our Life Plan Program will give you a step-by-step roadmap to help you chart your personal course and stay focused on the road that will help you show up with boldness and courage because you have the confidence of where you are going and what that will look like. 

Focus takes looking at the big picture of tomorrow and bringing your lens in to today, so you see what you need to see to move forward in a way that helps you lead your life, instead of your life leading you.

How’s your lens?